Shut Up you Jealous Folks!

As a single woman living in a big city, I face this question (or a variation of this) quite often:
“You don’t have a boy friend! You don’t feel lonely?” Initially I tried to explain that I don’t need a boyfriend to not to feel lonely, or I may still feel lonely even if I have a boy friend. But then as the course of the conversation would progress and the number of times it happened with me, I realized, its not my loneliness or the lack of a ‘boy friend’ in my life that these people are worried about; the main question that they want to ask, but cant ask me directly is “how often do I have sex” or “how do I satisfy my sexual needs!”

As I slowly got to realize the main interest behind people’s sympathized face for my loneliness, it made me mad initially. Then it made me laugh quite a bit to myself.
Women & Men, however, react differently.

If it’s a woman, she, unless she is a single too, will look at me disbelievingly with her eyes clearly telling me “who do you think you are fooling?”. But, luckily for me or for them, they leave it at that and don’t proceed further with their inquisitiveness.

With men there are two kinds of reactions:
Either the man becomes so sympathetic with my ‘pathetic loneliness’, that he is up and ready immediately to curb such a situation by ‘offering’ to sleep with me. No, this is not done so indiscreetly, but trust me they suddenly become so ‘kind’ and ‘understanding’, that even a child can clearly understand how much he is ready to ‘sacrifice’ himself just to make sure, I don’t feel lonely for that precise 11 minutes.

The second kinds are even smarter. First they will ask me “how is it possible that an attractive woman like you do not have a boy friend!” Then, when they don’t get any more answers or ‘explanations’ as they would like to get, they say “but last time when we met, you told me about that married guy you met”; or , “I remember you telling me that you met someone in that party thrown by your friends!”

Wah! Wah! Wouldn’t they have been better being in the law profession or written exams for IPS? Man! They would have really made the hardest core of criminals confess their crimes. What a loss !!!

Interestingly, no one has yet made any comments about me being a lesbian. But may be soon, I will hear that too. But that’s ok. As a rebellious girl child of a middle class Bengali family, I have chosen to lead an unconventional life strictly as per my principles and values in life. So, there is no way that I will be bothered about petty jealousies by people who couldn’t dare to live their own life. Sorry folks. Try some one else…