I went to a friend’s marriage some time back. And I was surprised to find that my friend has taken so many things in dowry, including a car. He works with one of the top software companies in Bangalore, and is from a reasonably well to do family. He is an engineer, and also an MBA.
I was surprised.
I was more surprised when I saw that the girl, whom he married, is highly educated, also works with another leading s/w company, and is much higher than my friend in social standing. I can safely say, if my friend’s background is modest, her’s is upscale.
So, why would someone like her pay dowry and marry a man like my friend? I was rather intrigued.
Now, that they are married, I have the answers.
In my friend’s house, his wife has the last word. And my friend obediently follows whatever she says, and makes sure that even his parents also abide by them.
I was amused now.
But why not? When she has paid money to get married, she has actually ‘bought’ the groom for her. If that is the case, she has to be the master, and he and his family are then bound to listen to all that she says!!!
Jindabad Women Power!!! I only hope that in all Indian families where dowry is given, the girls understand what power they get by doing it. May be then this age old dirty ‘tradition’ will come to an end.
